Family Normality,Functionality And Dysfunctionality Of Western Culture As It Applies To Counselling Abstract

Family Normality,Functionality And Dysfunctionality Of Western Culture As It Applies To Counselling Abstract

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AbstractFamiliesaremadeof parentsandchildrenandeachhappensto be autonomous,somefamiliesare referredas normalwhileothers are functional,andsomeare dysfunctional. Normalityof thefamilydepends on thefamilymembers,andtheycan maintaintheir structureas wellas beingableto adaptto theenvironmentaround them. Italsoentailstheir positionto keeptherelationshipbetween themselves andalsotheabilityto followrulessetbythemselvesorgovernment.Ontheotherhand,dysfunctional familyoccurswhena familyis not ableto adhere to changesamong themselves hence,theunityorstayof eachmemberwithin thefamilyis threatened.Thispaperseeksto analyzetheconceptof normalandhealthyfamilyaccording to a particularcultureorethnicity as itappliesto counselling.FamilynormalityFamilynormalityandhealthytakesinto accountdifferentpatternsof familyfunctioning,thisbecauseeachfamilyhas its structure.Familyfunctioning impliescohesionamong familymembers.In anormalfamily,memberscanadaptto their currentenvironmentas wellas maintaininga goodrelationbetween themselves andobeyrulessetby eitherthegovernmentorby thefamilymembersthemselves. Ina healthyfamilyallmemberstreatone anotherwith respectandtheycan helpone anotherin timesof difficulties(Vannicelli, 1989), in thesefamilieseachmemberis allowedto followhis orher interest.Mostlytheparentstaketheresponsibilityof their childrenby givingthem thenecessitieslike food,shelter,clothesandalsoeducation.Theyalsobringup responsiblechildrensince theytrainthem on someof therulesto followandalsogivethem workto doto avoidlaziness,andthisbringout responsibleadultsin thefuture.Thoughthere is nofamilythat can be viewedas normalsince eachfamilyhas someproblemsandchallenges,theabilityto solvethechallengesas theycomeup andalsobe in a positionto embracechangewithout difficultiesis whatmakesa familynormal.According to Wilsh (2003), nofamilyis problemfreesince allfamiliesfaceordinaryproblemsin their dayto daylives.Normalityof anyfamilydepends on differentculturessince eachculturehas itsbeliefsandnormshencewhatis referredto as normalin one culturemay be a differedcasewhenitcomesto differentculture.Childrenfrom thesefamilieswhohavebeenbroughtin healthyenvironmentsgrowup to be responsibleadultswhoknowtheir rightsandcan respectotherpeopleideasandinterests.FamilyfunctionalityFamiliesfunctiondifferentlydepending on certainphasesthattheyare in at a giventime.Forexample,whenchildrenare youngthefamilyfunctiondifferentlyas comparedto whensuch a childgrowup. Similarly,educatedfamilyoperatein a betterwaysince themembershaveknowledgeof therightsof eachmemberandwhattheyneedto doforthegoodnessof thefamilythismight be oppositeto uneducatedfamily.Undeniably,the functioningof thefamilydepends on otherfactorslike thepresenceof a memberof thefamilywhohasa chronicdisease.Such a personneedsto be takencareof by theentirefamily.Diseasesaffectthewholesystemof thefamilyhowever,somepeoplecan overcomethischallengesandmoveon with lifewhileothers are affectednegatively andcannot moveon easily.Also,itdepends onthe presenceof adolescentchildrenamong familymembers(Olson, 1985).Functionalfamiliespossessseveralcharacteristicsthat includerespectforparentsandchildrenas wellas respectforthesiblings. Moreover,eachmemberis considerateof eachotheropinionsoas to avoidconflict,maintaina healthyenvironment.Thisisa clearindicationthatallmembersare inthe positionto saytheir viewsandexpresstheir feelingwithout fearof beingpunished.Privacyis accordedto allfamilyandapologyandforgivenesstakeplacewhenever one wrong.FamilydysfunctionalityFamilyis referredto as dysfunctional whenitfailto adapttothe conditionof whatis referredto asnormalin anygivencultureorreligionthatitisbasedon. In thisfamilies,challengesare faced,andthemembersare unableto solvevariousproblemsthat theyface(Forward, 1989). Suchproblemsincludelackof respectto anotherforinstance,childrenfailto respecttheir parentandsomeevengoto an extentof abusingtheir parents.In somecases,parentsabandontheir childrenfailingto givethem therequirednecessities.Assuchsomeof thesechildrenendup gettinginto drugsorevengoingto thestreets.Abuseof childreneithersexually orphysicalis alsoanothercharacteristicof dysfunctional families.Othercharacteristicsof dysfunctional familiesincludefailureby parentsto takeup their responsibilitieshence,forcingchildrento workandtakecareof their siblings. Suchchildrendonot enjoytheir childhoodas theytakeup theroleof their parents.Besides,dysfunctional familieshaveover-controlling parentswhoalwayswantto dominateover their childrentheyarenevergivenanychanceto makeanydecisionby themselves. Suchchildrengrowin fearandevenwhentheygrowup theycannot makeanydecisionon their own.Alcoholicparentsalsocharacterizedysfunctionalityfamilies.In thiskindof families,parentsare drunkmostof thetimeshence,theytendto forgettheir responsibilities.Againparentstendto be abusivethiscan be physical,verbal,andsometimessexual.Someparentsoftenbeattheir childrenusingsharpobjectswhileothers abusetheir childrensexually which makesthem feelfreighted andworthlessthus,loweringtheir self-esteemforquitea longtime.Suchchildrenfindithardto trustpeople,behavior,andwordsof otherpeoplewhentheybecomeadults.Further,mostchildrenfrom thisfamilieshavechallengesin their academicworkandalsoin their futurerelationships.ConclusionItisclearlyseenthatthere are normalandhealthyfamilies.Ahealthyfamilyis mostlyoptimal however,thisdoesnot meanthatitdoesnot havechallengesratheritstrivesto solveitsproblems.Itachievesthisby respectingandbeingconsideratef eachandeverymemberof thefamily.On thehand,dysfunctional come along with manyproblemsthat occurmostlydue tothe negligenceof theparentsorchildrenfailingto dotherightthing.Definitionsof normalityanddysfunctionality familiesdifferamong peopleof differentcultures,religion,sex,andracesince eachof them havedifferentbeliefsandnorms.Whatis believedto be rightin one culturemight be wrongin anotherculture.Undoubtedly,itis seenthatnormalandfunctionalfamilieshaveadvantagesover dysfunctional onehence,individualsshould striveto havenormalandfunctionalfamilyforthegoodnessof thesocietyandthewordat large.

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