Conflict in Interpersonal Relationship

Conflict in Interpersonal Relationship


Conflictin Interpersonal Relationship

Conflictand its role in a Romantic Relationship

Conflictis the contest or struggle between people with opposing needs,beliefs, goals, values and ideas. The team conflict is inevitablewhere the results of the conflict cannot bepredetermined.

Rolein Relationship

Conflictis part and parcel of the daily life. It is the reality of anyrelationship and is not bad. The relationship void of conflict isunhealthier than the one with frequent conflicts. Conflicts canweaken or strengthen a relationship. Conflict can create a deepercloseness, understandingand respect. They can also be destructive in that they can causedivorce, hostility or resentment. Resolving the conflict and not thefrequency of the conflicts is critical in determining whether arelationship is healthy or unhealthy, deep or shallow, friendly orunfriendly, intimate or cold or satisfying or unsatisfying. Theconflicts may run from minor differences to critical fights (Yarnell&amp Neff, 2013).

CommonType of Conflict and Resolution

Inthis relationship, the most common type of conflict is theinterpersonal conflict. This is the conflict between two people. Inessence, it happens since people are different with variedpersonalities which lead to incompatible opinions and choices. It isthe natural occurrence that can assist in the personal growth ordeveloping other people’s relationships. To resolve the conflict,it is important to treat the other person with respect.Thisis an attitude that is conveyed through certain behavior. Anotherfundamental thing is to listen to the other person’s side. Eachperson will speak for him/herself only when the feelings and ideas ofthe other person are heard. It is also to state your feelings, needsand views which take the form of assertive statement by being brief,avoiding loaded words, honesty and disclose your feelings. To me, Ithink I would solve the conflict by giving in. it is better to giveup than fight as a result of anger

Conflictresolution and the language, family background, gender and culture

Cultureis embedded in any conflict since the conflicts always arises inrelationships. The culture affects the way we name, blame, frame andattempt to tame the conflicts. In regard to the family background,the parents play a role in the way the teenagers resolve theirissues. For instance, an individual from a family with constantconflict may think it’s a norm for there to be conflicts and thuswont attempt to solve the conflict. On the other hand, gender shapesthe way we solve the conflicts. For instance, male chauvinism affectsin some cultures may affect resolving the conflict between genders.For instance, a male may feel superior to female and thus hinder theaspect of conflict resolution. Language may be a barrier in resolvinga conflict especially when a person fails to understand the otherlanguage (Kelley,2013)

NonverbalCues In conflict and their message

Inany conflict, there are certain body movements referred to asnonverbal behaviors that can present a lot about how you feel andwhat you mean to the other person. For instance, when a person rolltheir eyes andthen they say “oh sure or it make sense”, one may think that theyhave agreed when feasibly they are mocking you and were not inagreement at all. One will understand that the other person did notagree even when they have said that they are in agreement because oftheir eyes movement. The bodylanguage ofthe other person can be imperative to understand whether the personis bored. Bodypostures suchas folding the arms in front of the chest can diffuse the situationfaster. Eyecontactmay show that a person is listening and is concerned with theconversation. Noddingthe headmay show agreement but it is important to know is a person is doingthat just for the sake (Knapp,Hall, &amp Horgan, 2013.Roleof Attentive listening in conflict resolution and conflict

Activelistening is listening with an open mind and full attention that aimsto bring understanding of the other on a deeper level than in anyother daily communication. Attentive listening has a crucial functionwhere they show that we have listened or there is the willingness tolisten. In many conflicts, communication fails because each side isconcerned with their own argument and thus they don’t pay attentionto the argument of the others. Contrastingly, it displays our earnestintention and attention to comprehend satisfaction to the others andincrease the willingness to listen. Consequently, it encourages trustand also encourages the conflicting parties to share their concernsopenly. Thus, active listening can promote all the aspect ofcommunication in conflict and conflict resolution.

Communicationstyle that can be used in resolving conflict

Iwould the assertive method of communication


PassivecommunicationItis a style where individuals have developed a pattern to avoidexpressing their feelings or opinions, identifying, protecting theirrights and meeting their needs. It result from low esteem

AggressiveCommunication Itis a style where the individuals express the opinions and feelingswhile advocating for their needs in a way that violates the rights ofothers. The communicators here are physically or verbally aggressive.This form of communication is born from low self esteem, feeling ofbeing powerless and unhealed wounds

Passiveaggressive It’sa style where an individual appears passive but is acting out ofanger in an indirect subtle way. The prisoners of war usually actlike this and they may try to sabotage prison. The people who arepassive-aggressive may feel powerless, resentful and stuck

AssertiveTheindividual state their feelings and opinions and advocate for theirneeds and rights firmly. This type is formed from the feeling of highself-esteem. The individual value their emotions, time, physical andspiritual needs. They have respect for the others and feel in controlof themselves (Arnold&amp Boggs, 2015).

Healthyform of communication

Beingassertive reduces arising stress and communicates well. It assists incontrolling of stress and anger and improves the skills of coping.Being assertive is based on the mutual respect and thus a diplomaticand an effective communication style


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